Some women consider that the way to overcome the crisis in their marriage is by having plastic surgery. True or false? The experts respond.
The image that others have of us is too vital for many. Self-esteem and the concept you have about yourself is built, to a certain extent, on what we want to reflect. Hence, if we are not comfortable as we see ourselves, self-esteem will be damaged; This is the case of some women who, after postpartum, with the physical changes that are suffered after pregnancy, affect themselves emotionally, which can even influence their relationship with their partner.
After breastfeeding her baby for almost two years, Adriana looked in the mirror and did not like how her breasts had looked. “Unemployed,” she said, and the same thing happened with the little rolls in her abdomen, which despite exercising regularly, knew that they would not disappear without the help of the scalpel; and although she felt like having surgery, finding out about her husband’s infidelity was the impulse it took to make the decision. She underwent augmentation mammoplasty and a tummy tuck. They were six hours in an operating room, which earned him a slow recovery, a urinary infection, and a deep depression.
However, today she looks in the mirror and says that she likes what she sees, although she is not convinced if she would undergo a new intervention again. Adriana assures that she has felt a positive change in her husband because he looks for her more frequently to have sexual relations; He had felt more affectionate and close to her, although she is still in treatment for her depression because due to infidelity she was going through an awkward moment when she decided to have surgery.
Psychiatrists assure that women associate infidelity with the fact that they are no longer seductive enough for their partners, and they see surgery as a tool for reconquest. They associate that if they change physically, they will be the people that their partners knew and will be able to recover their lives together. If women are not satisfied with their physical appearance, self-esteem drops to affect the relationship.
Many plastic surgeons consider that women do not need to increase their breasts to achieve love for men. Still, if their reasons are adequate and do not generate an over-expectation in the results, they may find that in addition to looking good, their sexuality is favored.
The Man’s Support
There are few boyfriends or husbands, who accompany their wives in initial consultations to help them inquire about the surgery and its consequences.
For the expert, the support of the man in the couple’s decision must be complete in making the decision, as financial and emotional support the day before, the day of surgery, and all the time after it.
However, the expert assures that it is a relaxed attitude to think that plastic surgery is the solution to problems. “The construction of life as a couple is based on deeper and more structured foundations, but despite that, it is a magical lifeguard that they go to and then comes discomfort and frustration. Plastic surgery must be done by and to feel good about oneself”.
So the man’s role when the woman expresses the desire to have surgery must be of complete support, recognition, and attention, in addition to finding solutions when other aspects of life in common may conflict.
After surgery, couples live in enjoyment, and it is more than a support, it is enjoying that novelty. But even those who have been considered ‘the most beautiful women in the world’ have suffered because of infidelity because the success and love of a couple are not built on natural taste alone; Although looking and feeling good reflects security and liking for the other, it is the emotional factors that must enter the operating room when there is no satisfaction.